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Speed Rapport
I. The Connection paradigm
- Connection Defined
- The Purpose of Connection
- Reaching out – Connection in the digital age
- Getting to connection
- Each person feels connection differently and gets to connection
differently
- Eliciting Connection criteria
- Elicitation and File systems theory
- Physical and Emotional Connection
- Physical connection process
- Emotional connection process
- The Connection process; Going Superficial to Deep
II. The Process step by step – Going Superficial to Deep
1) Superficial Connection – defined
- Fluff talk
- Current events
- Celebrity gossip
- Movies, TV
2) Social connection – defined
- Find commonalities
- Commonalities in General
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amended, and would constitute independent violations of law, giving rise to liability for compensatory damages and/or
statutory damages of up to $150,000 per infringement. 17 U.S.C. § 504©(2)
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Getting to Discovery through Connection
A major goal of all relationships is to enable learn about ourselves – about getting to
discovery. We get insights into who we are, and we move through life with these deep
connections – they help to define us and to give our lives meaning and purpose.
Exploration with another is about sharing new experiences, sharing a deep level
connection, and discovering things about yourself that you never knew were there. This
is where personal growth occurs. This is where self-actualization takes place – and we
do it together with someone that we’re deeply connected with.
At this deep level of connection, two people bring out the best in each other – they are
better for being together. They ADD to each other’s lives and bring about a sense of
enrichment and fulfillment.
This is the ideal – it’s the level of connection that we all hope for. This level of
connection develops out of a deep personal connection through time. It’s a level of
connection that becomes stronger as time goes by and one that defines us.
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as posting this Manuscript or excerpts thereof to a web page or email – are violations of the Copyright Act of 1976, as
amended, and would constitute independent violations of law, giving rise to liability for compensatory damages and/or
statutory damages of up to $150,000 per infringement. 17 U.S.C. § 504©(2)
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Conclusion
I hope this book has helped to deepen your understanding of the Connection process –
remembering that ultimately you will learn the most not by reading, but by DOING. Now
that you have these understandings, you will begin to see the structures and levels of
connection in your life as they begin to unfold. Having this knowledge will allow you to
take your relationships to deeper levels and it is my hope that this will ultimately lead to
a more fulfilled and enriched life.
Best Regards,
Copyright © 2007 by Social Mastery. The reproduction, adaptation, distribution, public performance or public display – such
as posting this Manuscript or excerpts thereof to a web page or email – are violations of the Copyright Act of 1976, as
amended, and would constitute independent violations of law, giving rise to liability for compensatory damages and/or
statutory damages of up to $150,000 per infringement. 17 U.S.C. § 504©(2)
2
Speed Rapport
I. The Connection paradigm
- Connection Defined
- The Purpose of Connection
- Reaching out – Connection in the digital age
- Getting to connection
- Each person feels connection differently and gets to connection
differently
- Eliciting Connection criteria
- Elicitation and File systems theory
- Physical and Emotional Connection
- Physical connection process
- Emotional connection process
- The Connection process; Going Superficial to Deep
II. The Process step by step – Going Superficial to Deep
1) Superficial Connection – defined
- Fluff talk
- Current events
- Celebrity gossip
- Movies, TV
2) Social connection – defined
- Find commonalities
- Commonalities in General
Page 39
Copyright © 2007 by Social Mastery. The reproduction, adaptation, distribution, public performance or public display – such
as posting this Manuscript or excerpts thereof to a web page or email – are violations of the Copyright Act of 1976, as
amended, and would constitute independent violations of law, giving rise to liability for compensatory damages and/or
statutory damages of up to $150,000 per infringement. 17 U.S.C. § 504©(2)
39
Getting to Discovery through Connection
A major goal of all relationships is to enable learn about ourselves – about getting to
discovery. We get insights into who we are, and we move through life with these deep
connections – they help to define us and to give our lives meaning and purpose.
Exploration with another is about sharing new experiences, sharing a deep level
connection, and discovering things about yourself that you never knew were there. This
is where personal growth occurs. This is where self-actualization takes place – and we
do it together with someone that we’re deeply connected with.
At this deep level of connection, two people bring out the best in each other – they are
better for being together. They ADD to each other’s lives and bring about a sense of
enrichment and fulfillment.
This is the ideal – it’s the level of connection that we all hope for. This level of
connection develops out of a deep personal connection through time. It’s a level of
connection that becomes stronger as time goes by and one that defines us.
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as posting this Manuscript or excerpts thereof to a web page or email – are violations of the Copyright Act of 1976, as
amended, and would constitute independent violations of law, giving rise to liability for compensatory damages and/or
statutory damages of up to $150,000 per infringement. 17 U.S.C. § 504©(2)
40
Conclusion
I hope this book has helped to deepen your understanding of the Connection process –
remembering that ultimately you will learn the most not by reading, but by DOING. Now
that you have these understandings, you will begin to see the structures and levels of
connection in your life as they begin to unfold. Having this knowledge will allow you to
take your relationships to deeper levels and it is my hope that this will ultimately lead to
a more fulfilled and enriched life.
Best Regards,
